My husband and I were raised in Catholic families in Colombia, and from an early age our parents taught us the fundamental moral principles of the Catholic religion. But on April of 1989, when we were born again, we began to understand the true meaning of being a Christian and since then our relationship with God has become more personal. Since then we began to write. José Joaquin wrote reflections about the love of God and messages of hope for humanity, and I wrote wise advice for all families everywhere.

Friday, June 21, 2019

STABLE MARRIAGE



Hello family and friends. On the occasion of the marriage of my ninth grandson Daniel, on June 15, 2019, with the beautiful young Rebecca, I want to give you some healthy advice, not only to them, but also to everyone. Marriage is not the union of two perfect people, but rather it is the perfect union created by God between a man and a woman. A good marriage is not one in which perfection reigns, rather it is a relationship in which a healthy perspective overlooks a multitude of problems that cannot be solved, so my advice is to make possible a nice marriage with the raw material of two imperfect human beings, with totally different personalities, also with harsh things that cannot be polished or eradicated. Try to develop the best possible perspective. Do not forget that the society in which we live is stubborn against matrimonial stability and for this we have to defend it with all our strength. Marriage is not a fairy tale, but you can create an oasis of love in the midst of a cruel and indifferent world, striving to create it, standing firm in love and fidelity.
A question: Did you know that there is no perfect match? So they must face the first years with a learner's permit, learning to carry the incompatibilities. It is a continuous effort of both.
Another question: These tips do not seem to be very romantic, right? But they are the result of the wisdom that is obtained through experience. Do not forget that a man and a woman are not compatible simply because they believe in God and love each other. Many couples imagine that the joy and flowers that characterize the courtship will continue, but that is not the case. You have to be naive to expect two people as different to adapt to each other as if they were machines. Remember that the polishing process lasts several years. This is the foundation for the couple to absorb what is to come. Do not forget that the nature of the human personality is very complex and that the principle of mental health is to accept what we cannot change. Life cannot give us joy and peace; these depend on a beautiful relationship with God. Try not to do many things at once, such as attending to your work, starting a business, studying, remodeling the house, etc., it is dangerous to be stressed and very committed, so you will be surprised when your marriage collapses, rather you should reserve time to share together, also with your children, so you can keep love alive and a stable marriage.
Other tips are: Do not spend more what is within your reach, distribute the money with much wisdom. The love between the two must be free and trusting. Do not forget that life is too short to contaminate it with anger, fights and insults. If we understand the brevity of it, our greatest wish would be to please God. The spouses must practice the gifts of companionship, cooperation and complement, the one for the other; this is the help of which God speaks. Remember that love is God shining through you, love is to give what one would like to receive, love is to give time even if there is no time, love is to listen with the heart, love is to remember, love is to be there, love is God . Love is to believe in the good, true and beautiful. Not everything that shines is gold, but if I pray everything shines. The Lord accompany you always and always.
With love,
Maria Fanny Agudelo
06/01/2019

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